VULNERABILITY

IS VULNERABILITY NECESSARY? 

That is a question I have been asking myself for years. As someone, like most, I find it extremely difficult to allow myself to be transparently vulnerable to everyone. But over time I have found that it is imperative to have a level of vulnerability in relationships with other in order to built an unbreakable bond. Whether it be a friend, lover or God you have to be able to reveal yourself.

Think about you child before all the woes of the world have boggled  you down and allowed you to become sheltered and stand offish. When you were hurt you could go to your mother, father or grandparent and tell them everything that upset you. This created and unconditional love between you and that person. When another child made you angry because they took your toy you would let them know, right? Why can we not live with that same level of vulnerability in life as adults. 

If we were able to break down those walls with others and be vulnerable with whomever we come in contact with, then we would not have to deal with conflict between each other. But unfortunately that is not how the world works. Because the minute you are vulnerable to someone that does not want to acknowledge your need you are expressing with vulnerability then we get hurt badly. The only thing we can do in reality is be transparent. Express what you want and need from day one. Then once that person is for you and you know for sure they are then you can allow yourself to be vulnerable. 

Just be careful that you are not the type of vulnerable that subjects you to harm. It is critical to know that the person you are expressing vulnerability to is there to be supportive and protect you from any attacks to your character and soul. And if that person is all of that and you allow yourself to be transparently vulnerable it can take your relationship to the next level. 

I think Brene Brown said it best...

"You can't get to courage without walking through vulnerability."

2 Corinthians 12:9-10

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

SIGNING OFF - Virtuous Woman

HURT - PAIN - STRESS - APPRECIATE

Every morning she wakes up un-assure of what the day may bring. Will it be hurt pain or stress?

Checks her phone before she heads for her shower. He didn't respond. -Why the hurt?-

She raises up out of the bed heading to the shower. This bed keeps me so stiff. - Wow this pain.-

She gets dressed, does her hair & make-up and heads for the door, anxiety raising. -Oh No Stress. -

She opens the door and the sun beams down on her. She says to herself Thank you God for this beautiful day. She jumps into her car and cranks the engine. She blasts her music reminiscing on the thoughts he shared with her last night but a bit disappointed that she did not have that "Good Morning Beautiful" text. She turns her radio down at the stop light and takes a minute to take a deep breath. She begins to say a quick prayer. 

"Lord Thank You for this day, the lessons I will have and the lessons I will teach. Thank You for your unconditional love and your grace. And though my heart is hurting right now I Thank You for the mercy you will give going forward in all that I am taking on."

She appreciates the Hurt - Pain - Stress! Because its a lesson and its a set up for her come up.


1 Peter 1:7

Pure gold put in the fire comes out of it proved pure; genuine faith put through this suffering comes out proved genuine. When Jesus wraps this all up, it's your faith, not your gold, that God will have on display as evidence of his victory. 

SIGNING OFF - Virtuous Woman