Is it Love or Infatuation?

Often times women find ourselves telling our girls "I think I am in love"!

But is it really love? Or is it infatuation.

  Merrriam-Webster  defines love in such wide range of definitions. It can be referenced as a verb or noun. However Merrriam-Webster has only 2 definitions for infatuate/infatuation. This alone goes to show the magnitude of love and the work that comes attached with it. 

With the start of a relationship love and infatuation can be hard to differentiate. After all they do not call it the "Honeymoon Phase" for nothing. You find yourself not wanting to be away from that person. Wanting to see them every single day and night. Just being in there presence has you enamored. But eventually that beginning stage wears off the true tests come which involve a lot of patience, energy, time and compromise.  

Now you are 3 months in with the person you said you cannot go a day without seeing. His/Her jokes aren't so funny anymore and you actually find things they do to be rather annoying. You begin to notice little things from the way they chew funny, to the way they breath harder then you remember. That aha moment happens and you realized this intense fire you once felt is no longer there. You do not feel that feeling you once felt. That intense attraction you once felt has fizzled away and you know that it is strongly possible that this was just a moment of infatuation. 

This is where make or break come in. When the petty arguments begin. You may even begin to wonder what did I see in them in the first place. Now you are stuck with deciding if you were truly in love with this person or was it an infatuation with someone and something new. Or maybe a little of both because you can be infatuated with someone you love but never love someone you merely just infatuated with. 

The best way to determine what you have with someone is to question yourself. After all the time you have spent with this relationship being the "perfect love" and now when all hell breaks loose in this relationship and one of you has hit rock bottom, Would you leave? If your answer is "Yes" then love never was established on your behalf. You have to remember real love is forgiving and patient. But never forget that  you should never jeopardize your love for yourself because you want to love someone else that doesn't know the definition to reciprocity.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.


SIGNING OFF - Virtuous Woman