Is it protection or control

 I know we've all been at some point with a man or woman who wants us to not wear a specific thing or not go a specific place. Maybe even not hang around a person that we've hung around for years. But my question is, Is this protection or is it control. 

My judgment comes into play on if the intentions behind them not wanting you to do these things is because of selfish reasons or to better you and the relationship. Often sounds people don't want us to wear something because they feel uncomfortable with other people looking at us. Or they don't want us to hang around a certain person because that person wants the best for us. In those cases it's a selfish reason for why you're made would want to stop you from doing these things. It's not for the intentions of the relationship to grow but yet for them to be more comfortable in their insecurity.

However is that person knows that you wearing something in particular is not good for maybe a job interview or a certain place you're going and the intentions is for you as a couple to look presentable in that atmosphere, that is understandable. Or if they know that that one single friend that always talks about your relationship in a negative manner is going to cause havoc and turmoil in the relationship where it wasn't already existent, then yes it is for the betterment of the relationship. In these cases it is understandable that your mate will want these things. Because they want to see your relationship flourish and grow as well as your lives around you.

With that being said if you find yourself in a place where you have to question whether it is protection or control, ask yourself these few questions.

1. Is what the person is asking for going to better the relationship?

2. Is the person in the relationship asking for these things insecure about something that related to this in the past?

3. Is the partner that is asking for this considering how it makes you feel that you have to make these changes?

4. Lastly, are the changes that you are going to be making going to call you to be isolated from the world? In this case that person maybe acting out of selfish reasons and narcissism and trying to get you away from others so that they can manipulate you.

SIGNING OFF - Virtuous Woman

What is sin

As always we're going to start off with what is the meridian Webster definitions of sin are:

a: an offense against religious or moral law 

b: an action that is or is felt to be highly reprehensible

c: an often serious shortcoming : FAULT

2a: transgression of the law of God

b: a vitiated state of human nature in which the self is estranged from God

I will not get into the detail of what I think sin is. However I am a firm believer that what may be a sin for one person is not a sin for the other. My mother was never a religious woman but her integrity was of the upmost importance to her. She would often say if you want to determine if you are sinning ask yourself what if the actions you are taking is something you would be ashamed to show people that you are doing. Can what you are doing allow you to stand on the integrity you have built in yourself.  If your answers are no then that is probably a sin for yourself. 

SIGNING OFF - Virtuous Woman