Mens need for success to have a relationship?

How often have we heard a man say that he doesn't want to have a relationship because he wants to be more stable or successful first?

Yet on the other hand a woman does not require that level of success in order for her to want to love the person that she loves and fully commit. 

This all stands back to the old gender roles that were placed on us many years ago. The man as the provider and the woman as the nurturer. A man feels he has to have a certain level of income in order to be successful and think in turn that's success will spill over into his family home to create happiness. 

 

However a lot of the times it is quite the opposite. The need to work hard and get to a certain level for your family creates a stronger bond within the family. Having everything up front and giving it to your children freely tends to have the silver spoon effect on children. 

Though there is nothing wrong with having ambition and wanting more the thought of having to be at a certain level of success can hinder you from finding the perfect person for you. Because you will continue to push away hopeful and qualified candidates for your mate. 

The better thing in my opinion to do would be, to still set the same goals but build on those goals with your partner. Instead of pushing the high potential people away until you become successful try to incorporate them in your success and your goals. This will create a stronger bond. Now you've gotten the success and the family that you always desired. 

SIGNING OFF - Virtuous Woman