When should you leave.

The age old question. When should you give up on a relationship and get out. Different generations have had different answers for this question. 

As the older generation will say you're supposed to stick it out through thick and thin no matter what. The younger generation with more understanding of mental health and safety will say get out immediately, typically. But do you want to act prematurely? Do you want to take the risk of leaving something that could have been worked out? Or have you drained yourself to the point where your mental physical or emotional health is at risk? How do they play am I invested and how hard will it be to get out if I need to? These are all things that you need to ask yourself when you're determining whether the risk is worth the investment.  

 

I think back on what my mother told me when I was younger. She always said make sure you have a way out of any situation in the event that it does not serve you in a proper way. Make sure that you have your money your mind and your heart right so that you don't end up being stuck in a situation that can cause harm to you.

I think we often don't understand that just because you have a written or verbal covenant with someone that it automatically put you in it for life. Just like any contract there's a way out of everything and there's always loopholes. So I say that if you're in a situation that you feel isn't conducive to a mental physical and spiritually rich lifestyle then you must ask these questions follow steps to rectify the situation.

1. Analyze where you're at in the relationship with that person. Is it going to be easy to leave? Or is it going to be arrangements that you would have to make and order to transition?

2. Does the love that you have for that person outweigh the pain that you're going through? If you were to leave this person behind in your life would you be okay?

3. Does this person have my best interested heart? And if they do not what do I need to do to put my best interest at heart? 

4. If you determine that they do have your best interest at heart but it may be something that they're dealing with then ask yourself are you able to work through it? Are you able to be a supporting person to them as they go through their transition?

Once you've asked yourself these questions then you can write them down, analyze the outcomes and make your decision. But remember to never stay in the situation that is going to not be able to be changed with the right amount of work. Your mental physical and spiritual health is the most important thing on this Earth and is the only thing you can control. 

SIGNING OFF - Virtuous Woman